和任何关系一样, it sometimes takes students a while to learn how to live together and to share the same living space. The RA will sit down with the roommates during the first month of school to help them complete a roommate contract. The roommate contract is designed to help them communicate their boundaries and expectations. The roommate contracts are kept on file in the RES office and can be viewed/altered at any time by the resident students if the need arises.
While sharing a room with another person can be a test of one's patience, 这也是一次非常有益的经历. Once students understand the importance of communicating their feelings, 妥协和耐心, 问题往往很容易解决. You may want to suggest that your son or daughter take the following steps to hopefully resolve the problems he/she is currently having with his/her roommate(s):
- Air gripes and concerns immediately, before they escalate.
- 承认并尊重彼此的感受.
- 对期望要现实.
- 任何时候都要保持沟通畅通.
- Be considerate of one another's privacy and possessions.
- There is a lot of learning that occurs outside the classroom and our goal is to help your student develop into a well-rounded individual. Some very important parts of human development are learning how to live with different people, 沟通技巧, 以及解决冲突的技巧. We view a roommate conflict as one of the greatest opportunities to learn all these skills. Therefore, we take a very developmentally focused approach in addressing these issues.
例如, we require students to speak with their roommates first so they can have the experience of confrontation and develop their 沟通技巧. 如果这对某个学生来说太难了, we try to coach them through the process so that they can go into the experience with all the necessary tools. If the confrontation of a roommate does not resolve the issue, 我们会越来越多地参与其中. Our next step would be mediation with their RA and if that does not solve it, 然后这个问题就会提交给研发局进行最终解决.